Love: what does love mean to you? It means different things to different people but nonetheless, when it comes to the matters of the heart, we've all shared similar pains and heartaches. Is love supposed to be that complicated? I usually prefer not to get too touchy in the subject of love because I don't have the answers or the mathematics on how it works, and probably never will. All I have are my experiences to draw and learn from. One of the most valuable things that I've learned is the importance of self-reflection before, during, and after relationships. I've discovered important revelations in the process of break-ups and I'm a firm believer that everything has a reason and a purpose, whether good or bad. We all wish to avoid pain and bad experiences but I try to think...what if the purpose for that experience is/was greater than the experience in itself? and what was I supposed to learn from this? The only reason why experiences recycle themselves is because we fail to reflect on the lesson meant to be learned each time. Unhealthy relationships tore away at my self-esteem and broke down my confidence because I let them, not purposely, but because I didn't know myself then so I believed anything. Eventually self-doubt, fear, feelings of unworthiness and insufficiency, and just a whole lot of other insecurities took over and broke me down. I became utterly broken inside. I'm finally at a place now where I can embrace my past and actually be thankful for the fact that I was at one point broken because it means that I can be rebuilt and into someone wiser and better.
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