Despite the comfort we get from our daily routines and the balance life offers us from having structure, the inevitable still exists.....life is uncertain. We get reminded of that usually in times of crisis, loss, tragedy, and other varied circumstances (love, finances, time, etc.). It has been a year since I last posted under this tab, not because my dreams have changed but because my life has changed. I haven't had time in the last 9 months, since leaving the United States, to think about my dreams because I am currently LIVING my dream, at least in the time being. My dream was to leave my comfort zone, learn to live a life with fewer attachments, seek something different outside of the American dream; so I packed my bags to start a life somewhere unfamiliar and new, and to continue my growth in self discovery. I am always writing about how much I value and seek personal growth. Am I happy right now? YES. Is that my ultimate goal in life no matter the decision? YES. Do I want to leave Korea? YES and NO. Uncertainty always comes and goes so I'd much rather focus on the now.
In life, we're often bombarded with ideas of what we should be and how we should live. Today, you're either working (even if not in something you want to do) or pursuing a degree (even if it's not something you want to pursue). Those are pretty much your two main options. The value of our life feels depreciated if we don't know what we want so we make choices for the sake of making a choice. There are those of us who go to College because that's what we're "supposed" to do, those of us who join the military for the purpose of "stability", and the rest of us who work until we "figure" things out. Of course none of the options above are terrible, most of us, including myself, have chosen one or two while considering the other. What if you chose none of the above to follow your dream(s)?
Too many are afraid to try something that may not fit social norms, something "nontraditional" because we've been conditioned to always chase security and not passion or purpose. Don't get me wrong, security is important! especially as you get older but the pursuit of that shouldn't sum up your whole life and be the reason for your beautiful existence. Risk taking and changes can be terrifying, the fear can paralyze us and deter us from even possibly trying. Taking risks and making life changes shouldn't equate to making decisions that are illogical, impulsive, and irresponsible but that they be done with the intention of forward progression, moving towards a positive direction in your life. It's always important to remain simultaneously productive and progressive in every decision that you make. Time will pass whether you're doing something you love, something you hate, or nothing at all, so the least you can do is make that time count. Be intentional with your choices so that one day you can see your dreams manifest into the reality you want.
Whenever I'm in full need of peace and tranquility, I imagine myself somewhere tropical or warm surrounded by a body of water (if I can't physically be there). Water brings me to my center; when life keeps me busy and thoughts keep me cluttered. I've always joked around that I must've been a fish in a past life if I were one to believe and follow the teachings of reincarnation. Water calms me and it sometimes gives me clarity, which allows me to reflect on the true matters of my heart, like happiness and freedom. I encourage you to also find your center, your go-to place that can give you that calmness you may desperately desire.